Thursday, December 23, 2010

Merry Christmas!

2010 has been a roller coaster year in our household, but we still feel blessed. We both have jobs that we like, we have a roof over our heads and vehicles to get us around, and we are surrounded by family and friends. Things could be worse.

The latest blow this year (and hopefully the last) was finding out that our sweet Gretchen has bone cancer. I'll admit I was angry, probably beyond angry, but you get the idea. REALLY???? I already lost Mom this year, now you're going to take away my sweet girl, too? And BOTH to cancer? Seriously.....something had to give. I was angry for a long time. I still am at times, but we've had some really sweet moments since the diagnosis and I've cherished the time we've had. Life will be an adjustment once she's gone. At least she'll be here through Christmas. She's still a happy girl, still gets up and wags her tail when we get home. Occassionally she gets the urge to try to run and chase rabbits, and that's hard on 3 legs when you're over 100 lbs. She's enjoying the extra pampering, and my "no people food for the dogs" rule has gone by the wayside for the time being.

We are definitely looking forward to a much better 2011.

We are now done with football season and on to wrestling. Iowa State has a bunch of really young guys that look promising, but it will definitely be a challenging year for the team. Basketball has also started, and started off very well! Apparently The Mayor, Freddy Hoiberg has breathed some life into the men's basketball team. I hope to get to catch a game to two this year to watch him coach. Another young team that looks very promising over the next couple of years!

We pray each of you had a great 2010. Please hug your families close and spend as much time as possible with them - life is short. As you celebrate CHRISTmas this year, remember the Reason for the season and take time to thank God for his indescribable gift.

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Happy Thanksgiving

I can't believe Thanksgiving is this week....time really does seem to fly. I know it's cliche to write what you're thankful for this time of year, however, I feel this exericise is a must for me this year with everything we've been through, so here goes. I'm thankful for:
- my wonderfully amazing husband
- my Dad and brother
- my job, as challenging as it has been lately
- our house. We could have lost it all in the flood, but we didn't
- our dogs - yes, sounds crazy, but I love coming home to them. They make me laugh every day

Elsewhere in the Bryant household......it's been crazy busy. We've had foootball games, which I love, and Josh even surprised me with a trip to Colorado to watch our Cyclones play as a birthday present! I was so excited! We drove out Friday, and back on Sunday, so it was a short trip, but was wonderful to get away none the less. I was sick all the way out there on Friday, and made a normal 9 hour trip 12 hours, but my dear husband didn't complain. He's one patient man. Once we checked into the hotel, he went to the nearest Target adn got me all kinds of flu medicines and supplies. I felt some better Saturday morning and was able to enjoy the game. Boulder and the Colorado campus are both really pretty. I think the highlight of the day was watching Ralphie the buffalo run the field prior to the game. It was very sad to see all the Cyclone fans show up when the team decided not to play, but you take the good with the bad.

Yesterday we concluded the 2010 football season with a home game vs. #15 Missouri. We held them to 14 points, but couldn't find a way to score ourselves. Oh well, at least the tailgate party was fun. I decided this morning that I'm too old to tailgate every weekend and that we need to move up a couple lots closer to the stadium next year so we don't have as far to walk...yes, I'm THAT old now!

I'm really looking forward to having Dad and John come down for Thanksgiving this year. We are going to Josh's parent's house in Ames for dinner. It will be a very bittersweet day. I've found myself wishing several times this year that the holidays would just be over so we can try to move on. I can't imagine Thanksgiving and Christmas without Mom, but I guess I'll experience both very soon. Please pray that I will hang onto the reason for the season and the good memories. I'm most worried about Dad. He's lonely despite his efforts to keep very busy, and I'm sure once winter sets in and he's not outside as much it will be more noticeable. I pray I will know best how to support him.

Here's wishing you and your families a wonderful Thanksgiving next week!

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Summer/Fall Update

So I see my good intentions to update once a month didn't come to fruition. Oh well, it's been quite a summer for us, and I've been distracted.

Quite honestly, I would really like to rewind and do this summer all over again. In some selfish way, I feel Josh and I have been "jipped" and haven't been able to enjoy young married life because of what our summer had in store for us.

July started with the news that Mom should really get things in order and start meeting with hospice. On July 10th, while I was sitting in Shannon, IL at a BBQ contest, Mom's Dr. called and told me the cancer really had progressed to the point there was nothing more to do than to keep her comfortable. We knew the day would come, but still prayed for a miracle. After the contest, Josh and I rushed to Waterloo, just in time for her to be released from the hospital to the Cedar Valley Hospice House. We drove her there, and she walked in the front door herself. I think the volunteer that greets peope at the house thought we were there to visit someone. When she asked if she could help and Mom replied that she was there to be admitted, a panic stricken look crossed the lady's eyes and we were immediatly surrounded by the loving staff. I don't think many hospice patients walk into the house to admit themselves. Mom has always been unique I guess.

I remember immediately being overcome and crying. I was expecting a sterile, hospital-esque place that smelled like cleaning agents, and instead we were greeted with warm colors, plants, flowers, and a simply beautiful facility. There are only 6 rooms at the Cedar Valley Hospice House, and it truly feels like home. There is a full kitchen, dining room, living room, kids play room, and library for the families of patients, and they encourage you to stay and make yourself comfortable. Far from a hospital setting.

They gave Mom the 2nd largest room they had ( I think they knew she would be popular and have lots of visitors) : ) The first few days were spent trying to control her pain. The goal was to get her home, but she worsened fairly quickly, and decided to stay at the hospice house where the wonderful staff could assist when needed.

Her birthday was July 16, and the day started off with us receiving an offer on the house we had for sale in Ankeny. The buyers would pay full asking price, just wanted a little in closing concessions - SOLD! Mom was thrilled. We had to force her to sleep that morning to rest up for an afternoon of surprises. Several families from church brought their kids in to sing to Mom. They also brought her ballons, flowers, and a pillow case they each signed. She was so so happy and she insisted on reading every word of every card out loud. Some dear friends from the Des Moines area were there and caught the whole party on video - we will treasure that for a lifetime. The overnight staff also made a couple batches of cupcakes for her, then they sang to her in the morning - it was such a sweet, tender time.

Mom has written a tract, and there were a couple minor adjustments she wanted to make to it. It was amazing to see how fast she declined physically once she knew that the changes had been made and we had 1,000 copies of the new version in our hands. She made it very clear that each of her funeral service bulletins contained a tract.

I'm so glad that we had such a wonderful day, because just 10 days later, Mom went to be with Jesus. We saw a steady decline, but thankfully she was fairly alert and recognized everyone up until the last 2 days or so. I decided to go home Sunday night to get some rest and do some laundry, then was planning to pick up some family members from the DSM airport Monday and get back to Waterloo. Monday afternoon as I was trying to take a nap, the nurse called and said Mom was not doing well. I immediately hit the road for Waterloo and called Josh to see if he could get to the airport for the relatives. I am so lucky to have such a wonderful husband....he didn't miss a beat and said he would take care of it - and he'd never met these relatives so had NO IDEA who to look for. In times like these, you really find out what people are made of, and I can't believe I'm so lucky to have Josh.

I was about 20 minutes from Waterloo and the dreaded call came. I had been praying the whole way that I'd get to tell her I loved her and give her one last kiss. Mom and I never had the talk, but she knew me well enough to know that I was very anxious to be present for "the moment". I've heard it's peaceful and actually quite a beautiful experience, but I was anxious. She must have known, because she passed away surrounded by Dad, John, and a room full of wonderful friends from church. That morning this group of friends had been surrounding her bed singing - something Mom LOVED to do, up until the very end. I arrived about 20 minutes after she passed away, and they asked if I wanted to see her. Not sure why, but I did. She had the most peaceful, happy look on her face, and my only consolation at that moment was that she had already seen Jesus and was no longer in pain.

As is typical in our family, we had to have a funny moment. Mom's mouth was wide open as she was lying there, and Dad asked the nurse why. She explained the reasons, and I just looked at Dad and said, "Dad, she can't sing with her mouth closed". We all laughed and cried, but I think it was the tension breaker we needed.

The next several days were an exhausting race to get everyone called and the services planned. Thankfully Mom had planned her funeral complete with 7 songs, so that made things easier. Her funeral was exactly how she wanted it....explaining to people how they can know they are going to heaven someday. I so admire her love for her Lord and they way she used her 3 year battle with cancer to witness to others.

Losing my Mom at a young age really made me re-prioritize things in life. We only have a certain number of days on this earth, and we need to make sure they matter. "Stuff" doesn't matter, people do. Hopefully I've done a better job of telling people I love them and spending more time with them. Dad, John, and I have become much closer through this experience. I'd still take Mom back in a heartbeat, but it's been neat to see our little family of 3 grow even closer.

Just 2 weeks after Mom's funeral, our basement flooded. We'd had 7 inches of rain in a matter of a couple hours, and the power had gone out, causing the sump pump to quit. Our sump has never run, and we've never had a drop of water in our basement. There is a creek behind the houses across the street from us, and it's typically 4-6" deep. It was up in our front yard.....there was water 4 feet deep in the street. Thankfully I woke up when the power went out an we were able to get plugged into the neighbors generator and drain the basement quickly. Then all the moving started. Nothing like moving all your belongings sopping wet with flashlights on your head in the middle of the night.

Just last week, the basement was officially finished and we've moved back in. We now have a back up on the sump pump so this will hopefully never happen again. And, thankfully, the house we were selling in Ankeny was saved from the flood and we were able to close as planned 5 days later.

We've been slowly figuring out what our "new normal" is since losing Mom and are getting back into the swing of things. We're ready for life to slow down a bit so we can relax and enjoy some time together, but we figure if we've made it through this last summer, we're set for life. Trials like this seem to make or break people and relationships, and I can say that I'm more in love with Josh now than I was 6 months ago. Not sure how I was chosen to be so blessed, but I won't complain!

One of the highlights of the fall was ISU football starting, and having a decent 1st half of the season. I love my Cyclones, but with the schedule this year thought we'd be lucky to win 2 games. We've already won 3, and we're off to watch our boys play #10 Utah tonight. Hopefully they play like they did last weekend - that would be exciting!

Sorry for the very long post, this is the first time I've written about losing Mom, and it was somewhat therapeutic amidst the tears and memories.

Wishing all our family and friends a very Happy Fall Season! Christmas is coming - my very favorite time of year! Now....go hug your loved ones tight and tell them you love them. Life is too short!

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

July Update

Wow - it's been a month since I've posted - and what a fun month it's been! We've now had 5 BBQ contests, and we've heard our name called at each contest but 1 (and that one doesn't count, it was too close to home :) ) Our last contest at Marshalltown we got 1st place pork and 3rd overall - what a fun weekend - made the heat more bearable. Mom and Dad came over and visited us at that contest as they have the past couple years. Mom wasn't feeling well, but she was a trooper and even sampled a couple of the categories we turned in.





For our 4th of July weekend, we went up to Waterloo and judged a BBQ contest at Mom and Dad's church then cooked pork loin and beans for 250 people. It was a good time despite the soggy conditions and no AC at my parents house!





Our BBQ schedule takes us to the BBQ Field of Dreams in Shannon, IL this weekend. It's a long drive, but it's a one of a kind contest and we are looking forward to seeing some BBQ friends we haven't seen since last year. It's a very tough contest, but we have a good time seeing everyone.

Thursday, June 3, 2010

BBQ Season!

The long awaited BBQ season is here! It was a long, COLD winter, making it seem like we'd never get to BBQ season! We opened the year close to home in Valley Junction. It was a great contest with some tough competition. We ended up with a 10th place call in chicken, and 3rd place brisket. When I left to turn in our pork box, I told the guys that if that wasn't top 1o pork, we were selling everything and finding a new hobby. You can look for all our gear on Craigslist.....apparently my idea of perfect pork is much different than the judges. Oh well....

This weekend takes us to Owatonna, MN. Hopefully the cool, possibly rainy weather will be our good luck charm.

Many of you (all 2 readers) have asked for our contest schedule, so I've posted it below. Please know that this can change at a moment's notice. We've offically entered all those below, so unless something crazy happens, we'll be there, but wanted to post that disclaimer.

June 4-5: Owatonna, MN
June 18-19: State Center, IA
June 25-26: Marshalltown, IA
July 9-10: Shannon, IL
July 16-17: Waterloo, IA
July 17-18: LaPorte City, IA
July 23-24: Mason City, IA
August 27-28: Nevada, IA

We may add a few more to the schedule, we'll just have to see how the year goes.

Life outside BBQ is great! We are absolutely loving married life and all the quirky things you learn about yourself and your spouse after you get married. We laugh every day....what a fun adventure!!

The 4-legged kids are still great, too. Gretchen is getting grayer every day, but is still just a laid back sweetie. HP (or Gary, or Doug, or whatever his name might be at any given moment) is hilarious. His clownish personality is so opposite Gretchy's laid back, more serious one.

Our families are all doing well - not much to report there! I do post updates about Mom on her Caring Bridge site:
www.caringbridge.org/visit/joanferguson

We feel very very blessed. Some of our friends and former school mates have gone through some really horrible, gut wrenching times lately, and our hearts ache for them. No parent should ever have to lose a child. As we've prayed and cried for those families, we've been learning that every single moment is unique and special, and we need to live life to the fullest every day, because tomorrow is not a guarantee. It's definitely taught us to change our priorities and spend more time with family and friends and less time at work (don't worry, boss, I still get my job done!) In these economic times, we are blessed to have great jobs, a roof over our head (actually we have 2 roofs now, so if you know anyone that would like a lovely house in Ankeny, please let me know!!!!) and food to eat - and we are so grateful for those privelages.

We hope you have been as encouraged and blessed as we have felt this spring. LIFE IS GOOD

Hope to see many of you soon - stop by on the BBQ trail - we love having visitors, and we usually can find a morsel or two of some delicious smoked meat to share : )

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

We Did It!!!

Can you believe that we are married??? Finally married!

March 20th was a glorious day - the day I married my best friend and soulmate. I couldn't be more blessed. Life is good.

Not that we have much going on since we're old and married now, but I thought I'd better get a blog up and running in case life gets exciting. After all, BBQ and ISU Cyclone Football seasons are just around the corner!

I will TRY to update several times a month, but trust me, there just isn't that much that's interesting in our lives very often. Our lives currently include: eat, sleep, work, writing thank yous, playing with the dogs, and a little TV watching....not much to write home about. With the impending warm weather, however, there will be some BBQ updates and such hopefully.

Happy Spring and Happy Easter, from the Bryants! :)